Friday, July 27, 2012

Confessions of a Recovering Prude

This may be hard for you to believe, but I almost divorced my husband over internet porn. Yes, yes, I know I write erotica but stay with me here and I’ll explain. First, you should know that I was raised in the country on a dirt road and went to a little Southern Baptist church and things just were what they were. You didn’t question anything; white was white and black was reallllllly black. <- pun intended. The first time I meet someone who was Jewish I actually said (now, this was at work mind you), ‘Awww, I’m sad you’re going to hell.’ O.o  Yeah. It was bad. It wasn’t until I was much older that I even began to see other’s POV and even later that I began to accept that some of them were okay.
I also got married when I was 22, which, FYI – is really freaking young. The chick I am now at 33 hardly resembles that crazy, little thing all those years ago. I was very insecure and I have no idea why. Everyone always said nice things about me, my husband was super loving…I didn’t have a valid reason for it. So when it came to light that he was into that, my anger was immense. It became a game of cat and mouse really, I would leave traps for him to see if he came home during the day, he would try to avoid them. It was crazy. I finally got to the point where I was convinced he didn’t love me and ready to be done with the whole thing. We broke up for an entire three days until he cried and asked me to come back, vowing never to do things to upset me again. Pie crust promise as ‘ol Mary would say. Easily made, easily broken.
What changed? Well, I did, for one. I grew up, found out who I was and decided I liked her. My husband also quit working two jobs and was home more, giving me the attention I needed. I also made a friend on Twitter who posted pics from a site called Art or Porn all the time and you know, he was the sweetest fella. His wife sounded just like I used to be; very religious and holier-than-thou, and it made him so sad because he just wanted to be with her and be accepted for who he was. I think that is what opened my eyes. It was no longer something to be done in a dark alley by men trying to get away from their wives; it was something to be done together, or apart, knowing that it wasn’t a sign of a failing marriage, but a strong one. So, I began to open my mind I guess you could say. Now – the really funny thing is – the moment I convinced my husband that I was open to those things; he quit doing them so much. Perhaps I don’t sneak around and check up on him anymore because I don’t care and that’s why I think that, but these days, he’s happy looking at stuff with me or working with me on research for a new book. ;) I’m sure there are times when he’s all by his little lonely and things…happen, but it doesn’t make me think less of ‘us’ anymore. It makes me happy that he’s all by his little lonely, waiting for me. 
The writing came simply from a need to create what I liked. Men and women are turned on by different things, that’s just the truth of it. And I decided to make something for women like me, who wanted a little romance with their hair pulling. So there you have it. Prude turned erotica writer. I’ve been married over ten years and we’re more intimately connected now than we were in the beginning and believe me you, anything that a married couple (be it W/M, M/M, W/W) do to keep the love alive is A-OK with me!
Here’s to the couples who’ve made it to the 10-year mark! I hope to see you through to 100 more!

Thursday, June 28, 2012

I Blog so I Will not Scream

During the day I am reminded over and over how much I don’t fit in with this whole ‘Corporate America’ business. I’ve never been one to be coy or play games. I ask for what I want, tell you the truth when you ask me a question, admit and apologize when I’ve made a mistake and show gratitude when folks are nice to me. One would think these are all admirable qualities that were instilled in me on a little dirt road and in a little white church as I grew up in a little country town. One would think. In ‘Corporate America’ this is thought of as being too direct, lacking tact and kissing up.
I’ve been with the same company for going on eight years. I’ve seen people come in one way and become someone different to move up, I’ve seen people try entirely too hard to be someone and/or something they aren’t, I’ve seen it all. I can’t help but wonder where these people grew up. Didn’t your momma teach you not to act like that? Didn’t your daddy teach you about honesty and the rewards of a hard day’s work and a job done right? Sometimes I feel physically ill watching the nonsense, which I try to stay out of mind you though sometimes can’t help it.
I cry silent tears as I sit here with hope and genuine pride in my work caught in my throat, for it has nowhere to go, no ears to hear and no hearts to find.  

Monday, June 11, 2012

Winner Winner Chicken Dinner...

The winner of all five of my eBooks is...*Drum Roll*

Shadow! =)


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Thanks all!

Contest Closed!

Welp, the Blog Hop is over! Thank you so much for your interest in my little blog! There are 8 awesome, amazing comments below and one of those awesome, amazing folks will be the winner of FIVE eBooks. Announcement soon so stay tuned!

Tuesday, June 5, 2012


Hi, all! =) Thanks for stopping by! If you're here for the Summer Blog Hop, you're in the right place. Brought to you by the amazing, and, The Summer Blog Hop is a chance for you to hear about some great books for your summer and win FREE STUFF! I'm giving away a copy of my eBook Timeless Love AND a copy of all of my YA books, written under the name Christy Trujillo, which includes Emmy's Song, Emmy's Heart, Sarah's Fate and True North. That's FIVE ebooks...all for you!

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Saturday, June 2, 2012

Post Day Release Day

Welp, yesterday was the big release of Timeless Love and other than my husband’s vasectomy and getting served with foreclosure papers, it was pretty uneventful. Oh, yeah, the foreclosure bit. My husband lost his job last year and we got in a bad spot. We’ve actually been working with a lawyer since last year so I don’t know what the hell is going on to be honest. I can tell you this, though. If I found out we paid that lawyer 2,500 for nothing, I will have his balls. It’s all been a very awful process. I resent my husband for losing his job and getting us into this mess, I want to keep my home but am pissed that we’re $80K upside down, like most of Florida. My biggest fear is that we have to leave and still owe money. You would think, with all of the issues in the market, they would want us to stay if we want to, which we do. We’ve been ready to make payments since Dec of last year but the lawyer told us not to. Again, his balls=mine. I hate that we got this info on a Friday night. How about Thursday night when I could call the guy and find out what the hell is going on?
Well, anyway, the real solution here would be for all of you to purchase Timeless Love and then Jenny Bent will take note and think, Oh yes, I remember her query letter for that YA book, call me, sign me, get me a book deal, make us (as in she and I) lots of money, and then I’ll move back out to Bryceville to my dream house. Hey – a girl can dream, yes? Well, for now, I’ll just take it as it comes, be thankful that my family and I are still together and as long as I have my laptop and internet, I don’t care where we live. Easy to please, that’s me. (hehehehehehe)

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Until Monday, my loves!

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Summer Blog Hop!

Starting June 5th come by the blog and enter for a chance to win Timeless Love for free! See, I told you followers of this blog would get stuff for free. See you on June 5th! =)